Your Questions About Self Help Books For Women Confidence
Sharon asks…
I’m searching for a self esteem/confidence book…?
I prefer one by a women because i feel it would better be easier to relate. I could be wrong.
Have you read one you can say helped you?
admin answers:
There is a book called Treasure Yourself by Miranda Kerr. She is a model but she has had a lot of tragedies in her life and she talks about self- esteem issues in young women. I hope this helped 
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low self esteem and confidence?
ok so heres how it is. I am told by many people and not just good friends that im attractive, have a good personality, and have a great body. So that sounds great to most and should sound great to me. However after tonight it has become abundantly clear that i can not convince myself of this same fact. Basically i lack self esteem and self confidence and im not comfortable with myself. The reason for this is simply i went out to a club (second time in my life) got lost from all the friends i came with and said ok but i had no confidence to really try to go talk to any of the girls out there or dance with them. Don’t get me wrong i tried but im certain they could see it in my eyes that i was not confident and i know that can be a major turn off to women and not make people wanna have fun around me. I have a hard time being comfortable in a new enviroment and i wanna keep going out to clubs though. So i feel like i need to take things into my own hands. I know this is something i need to fix myself and nobody can really change this but me. But what i want is some guidance so can anyone suggest a book or a dvd or something to help me out here?. Hopefully there is thanks to anyone who helps.
admin answers:
I felt what you feel.For a guy like you who hasn’t been into a relationship,you may find it hard if you keep on thinking negative about yourself.Confidence is always the key but dont forget to set limit.Others might find you really annoying if you just want to look popular,like you’re so fresh to show your intentions to them.Just be patient.If you want to bring the best in you,look at yourself in the mirror.I personally don’t find you bad looking,actually you have the looks it’s just that you are afraid to show what you really got.Start with an eye contact.If that works,go talk to the person and introduce yourself politely.Just be careful with the words.Anyway,what’s lacking is your trust in yourself.When you say be yourself,that means everything goes without minding what would happen.Which I think you had already done before.Basically, it takes time for somebody to adapt the changes but once you’re used with it, you might find yourself at ease.
The best thing you can do during your spare time is read the book “Unleash your Full Potential by James Rick” http://www.fullpotential.com/about-james . I was once looking for a self help book when somebody online recommended me to read his writings.I say,I never got bored reading the book.
The purpose of the Full Potential Philosophy is for living life at your best:Physically,Mentally,Spiritually,Socially and Financially.It teaches you the things you need to enhance I mean the areas you need to develop and how you can be productive.We all have hidden skills and we do need to have deep understanding about ourselves before we get our full potential.Life is temporary. Your existence – at least on Earth, has a beginning and an end. This fact urges you to be efficient about how you use time.And that what leads you to be productive.
William asks…
Advice about getting the confidence/courage to speak to women?
I have read a few self help books on conversation, NLP and tried a hypnosis CD for confidence, but am far from convinced. I know getting started is the hardest bit. I want to start with general chit-chat but my mind just goes blank. I think I should say Hi, then make a general comment about the environment, perhaps a compliment that’s not too personal. I sort of freeze up and don’t introduce myself and let the moment go by. I don’t drink, it’s been a prevalent problem in my family and I don’t want to follow suit, so I don’t want to hear any of this dutch courage nonsence.
If you have any suggestions or strategies (not examples like use a dating web site though) I would be very grateful. Thanks for reading.
admin answers:
We all want something. When you want something, you can be humiliated and teased. Try talking to a woman you want nothing from, someone you do not find particularly attractive and are not after anything from. Just talk about whatever there is on your mind, or whatever you think is on her mind. (within reason of course, it is often necessary to be respectful and contextually correct)
When you have learned that the talking part is easy when you want nothing, you can progress towards expecting nothing. When you expect nothing, you can then talk to anyone the same way as when you want nothing.
It is particularly important of course, not to chase a person around so that you can have a chat about nothing. You have to chat with whoever you come across, but you can be selective and choose not to chat too.
Breaking the ice, and the barrier, is all about communicating on the level of the person you are speaking with. Speak their language, and you will win their mind.
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