Your Questions About Tapes On Self Esteem
What should I do? Sex addict?
My self-esteem was crushed as a child due to constant bullying. My parents were over bearing. I lost my virginity at age 9 or 10. I remember being young…really young (4 or 5)…finding tapes….my mom saying “he’s doing something you can’t” I think I might have been exposed to sexually explicit material at a very young age. Now I’m 26. Cheated on my first girlfriend 12 times, second 4, and now, much to my dismay, I’m trying to cheat on my new girlfriend…and I’m getting close.
I find myself trying to have sex with people I wouldn’t normally find “attractive” just for the adrenaline rush. Everyone thinks I’m such a great guy but no one knows what I really am. I’m charming, and a smooth talker, I’m able to make every girl feel like they’re the one.
I know this is all to protect my damaged ego, I’m self-aware…but I’m lost. I feel like I won’t stop cheating until I loose everything and kill myself….I don’t love them, that part of me needs them…needs to feel worthy of something.
Should I just kill myself?
What disturbs me most was my ability to initiate sex at 9. Was I possibly abused? Could I have blocked something out?
I don’t know if I can seek help. I can’t break the addiction cycle. I know If I seek help I’ll have to tell my girlfriend and I’ll be exposed and I can’t be seen as weak. I don’t have the f*king balls. That’s why I’m thinking of suicide.
I shouldn’t have said suicide. I’m sorry.
admin answers:
First, no you do not need to kill yourself. That is just a way out that would not solve anything and leave a wake of destruction in its path. What you need to do is seek counseling. There is a good possibility that you were molested young and blocked it out, and this is your subconscious’ way of handling that. You need to feel needed, I get that, but you are putting yourself and others at risk. You need to find a way to work through some of the emotions that you have buried and find a way to love yourself. Until you love yourself, you sure as hell can’t ever really love someone else. There are specialists trained to deal with conditions such as yours. Sex addiction is a very real disorder, brought on by some form of trauma. Seek counseling and do your best to try to heal as soon as you can. Good luck.
Daniel asks…
Do you realize how unimportant the bible makes humans out to be?
How unworthy we are of gods love. How we are such sinners and bad folks. Can you see at all that the bible teaches humans how to become without self worth, self esteem, and confidence? Your confidence is based on a belief and a very controversial belief at best.
Can you see the bible guides it’s so called children just the opposite as what us humans have proved to be correct in raising children. which includes praise, love, an understanding. the bible doesn’t teach these things It is no wonder religious folks cannot answer questions without using some kind of god’s words instead of their own. The bible turns your individuality and the ability to think for yourself into robotic tapes you play for folks when asked questions
admin answers:
Now your getting it !
Linda asks…
How do I move on after breaking up with my boyfriend?
Me and my boyfriend have been together 3 long years and we have lived together for the past 2 years. We honestly love each other and are like best friends but things have been extremely dry between us. Our sex life is non existent. I’ve tried spicing things up bringing toys in dressing up, talking to him, working out, even adult tapes basically anything to get him to find me attractive but nothing works. I’ve given up and I really don’t know what else to do? Now I am ready to move on but my self esteem is so low now that I’m afraid I won’t find anyone else. How do I move on?
admin answers:
Cry a little, delete things that remind you of him (like photos and songs) watch comedic movies (they always help) plan things with your friends more, start looking for other guy. Try some best self help ebooks for added inspiration.
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